We know some readers just said “Amen” in their heads, if not actually out loud.
No matter the context or circumstances, the difficulty of parenting is true across the board. It’s hard, but absolutely worth it. And the specific stories of the children our work impacts can be unique. Many children who come home through adoption experience trauma and early attachment injuries. This means that the healing process parents work to shepherd their children through can be complex and challenging to navigate.
Thankfully, you are not alone on this journey. There are communities of parents all over the world to offer support, encouragement, and advice. Hopefully, you can find a local community through your church that supports the needs of your family day-in and day-out.
There are also a number of books, articles, and other resources that provide research-based, practical help.
Here are four resources you won’t want to miss.
Much of our work in Pre+Post Adoption Support is owed to the incredible life and work of Dr. Karyn Purvis, and this book is the cornerstone of it all. “The Connected Child” is beloved by many in the adoption community, and considered a trusted guide and place of help.
In this book, Dr. Purvis, Dr. David Cross, and Wendy Lyons Sunshine seek to help parents of children impacted by early trauma build healthy and connected relationships so that healing can occur. Called “A tremendous resources for parents and professionals alike” by the National Council for Adoption, we cannot recommend this book enough.
Bonus Resource: “Created to Connect: A Christian’s Guide to The Connected Child” is a companion workbook to help you better understand and implement the principles learned from “The Connected Child.”
Trust-Based Relational Intervention® (TBRI®) is the motivating force behind the work and resources of the Karyn Purvis Institute of Child Development at TCU. The Purvis Institute has put together a number of resources for learning the basics of TBRI, and this DVD series is a great place to start.
The Healing Families DVD Series combines expert analysis with real-life examples to teach practical skills to parents and professionals. The lessons are broken up into sections, which make this series great for busy parents who may need them the most. Through the course of these seven DVDs, you’ll gain an understanding of the foundational elements of TBRI.
Published in 2010, “Wounded Children, Healing Homes” addresses the reality of unmet expectations that many have experienced in the adoption journey. Early attachment injuries create unique circumstances, and working through these circumstances doesn’t always go as planned.
This book offers encouragement, validation, and solutions for some of the challenges of parenting. Many have found glimmers of hope in its pages.
In partnership with Empowered to Connect and the Karyn Purvis Institute of Child Development, Show Hope presents the Empowered to Connect Conference once a year. This two-day event features some of the leading research and teaching on attachment to educate parents and professionals who care for children impacted by adoption and foster care.
Along with the in-person event, a live simulcast is offered through hundreds of sites all around the country, and even internationally. Wherever you are, you can bring this teaching to your community. Every year we hear new stories of how this conference made a meaningful impact in the lives of children and families.