How to Find a Therapist

Sometimes our children face things for which professional help is needed. These could include anxiety or depression, family problems, bullying, and emotional or behavioral changes, among others. Especially for children who have come home through adoption or foster care, therapy may be helpful to help your child begin to heal from trauma he or she may have experienced. 

Therapy and counselors are not “one size fits all,” and it can be confusing sorting through all the options. Here are some helpful questions to ask when considering therapy for your child

Is my child showing signs that he or she may need therapy? Signs could include:

• Sudden or alarming changes in behavior or emotions
• Changes in sleep and/or eating patterns
• Heightened emotional reactions, especially when it comes to fear or sadness
• Self-destructive behavior or sudden withdrawal from peers

What type of therapy does my child need? Different types of therapists include:

• Counselors work one-on-one with children and their families to help them understand family and behavior dynamics.
• A Clinical Social Worker holds a master’s degree in social work. Your child might be assigned to meet with a social worker at school, in a hospital, through their adoption/foster care agency, or other clinical settings. Social workers will work with a child to help him or her deal with problems at school and home.
• A Psychologist holds a doctorate in psychology and can help children work through a specific mental health diagnosis such as ADHD, autism, anxiety, or depression. A psychologist can provide various types of testing and approaches therapy from a research base.
• Psychiatrists hold a medical degree and can prescribe medication for mental health concerns.

What therapy resources are already in my network of connections?

• Research what clinics and providers your health insurance covers.
• Talk to your child’s school, your church, or your adoption/foster care agency to see if they provide free or discounted resources.
• Discuss your concerns with your child’s pediatrician to see if they have recommendations.

As you, your child, and your family walk this journey together, remember there is no shame in therapy or counseling. Children and teens, especially those who have been impacted by adoption and foster care, can have unique, complex needs, and professional help is most needed. This is—in no way—a reflection of you as a parent and caregiver, and as you seek a therapist or counselor you must remember that truth and embrace it.